Things Bloggers Don't Talk About (& why I do despite the hate)

The past few days have been a whirlwind of crazy, the type that make you stare intently at the sidewalk in the small hope that it won't get directed at you. Even though I've been running all over the city enjoying my favorite holiday weekend, I did pause to reflect on the fact that all of this would be so avoidable had I never taken my love of talking and turned it into a full time hobby/job/whatever you wanna call it.

Here's the thing, I've been writing since early 2012. I saw an ad for writers for a popular collegiate website and figured why the hell not? As someone who has been reading women's magazines since the age of six, I know a thing or two about what young women like to read. With friends my whole life telling me I should write my stories down, I finally took their advice and applied for the position. That turned into another opportunity, which turned into another, all of which ended with me creating my own space where I could talk about what I wanted, how I wanted.

There was just one problem, no one seemed to be talking about the things I enjoy talking to my friends about. Angry moments on the subway, deciphering out if you're in a relationship or just hooking up, and figuring out how the hell to write a resume that won't get tossed in the trash. Basically websites we're too niched, or simply so big that you lost the relatable factor. So I set out to create exactly what I wanted to see in the world, a place where a basic ass millennial could write about that time an ER doctor said her UTI was caused by too much sex! (This is very much debatable and will definitely one day be written about in depth, because I'm shameless.)

One problem though, not everyone likes when you tell it like it is. Bloggers don't talk about sex and people don't like you talking about your experiences with them. And that's when I realized, there's so many interesting topics bloggers miss out on just because we see others being successful when writing about the topics we were all taught are marketable, or worse, we're scared of the backlash! We live in an age where we're obsessed with the intimate details of celebrity lives, yet I don't think any of my favorite bloggers have ever referenced anything more personal than their dress size.

I know that I'm not going to change the direction of blogging and that my blog is not pulling in millions of readers every month. But there is one thing I do have, other bloggers with similar platforms to mine reading my content. So maybe if we started talking about the things that we all really wanna hear about, blogging will no longer be this place where everything needs to be picture perfect and every critical/hateful comment is discussed in our Facebook groups.

Currently I have my ex-boyfriends current girlfriend completely harassing me in the comment section of one of my latest posts, on top of the string of Facebook messages that I swiftly ignored. And do I give a crap that she thinks I'm pathetic for putting my experiences out there? Hell no! At the end of each day, every time she click my page to comment about how pathetic I am, that's one more page view that helps me later along the line when choosing how much to charge companies who want to partner with me.

If you're a blogger who sometimes gets bored of publishing the same type of content, or just a girl who wants to say more in her Instagram captions that how nice the sunset was, do it! Write about the time you cried on public transportation, take that selfie on day one of your period and let your followers know how bad your cramps are, say the things you say to your best friend without the fear of what some judgmental person may have to say back.

As for me, I plan to keep writing about the topics I always wished others would talk about when I was younger. Currently I have a post on the first page of Google that every girl sees when searching how to get over a guy. And you know what? That feels awesome! Four years later and that post is still helping young women deal with a breakup that they too weren't ready for. And until I write another post that goes as viral as that, I'm just gonna keep oversharing on the internet, hoping someone reads it and finds it totally relatable.



So tell me, are you a blogger who keep certain things private, and if so, why? And if you're just a everyday reader, what's one thing you wish more men and women would talk about online?